Ekugqibeleni ugqibe. Kungekudala kwindlu yakho kuya kuba nekantana encinci, ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuba ilungu elipheleleyo lentsapho. Ingxaki kuphela ehleliyo: ngubani ongcono ukufumana ikati okanye ikati? Ukususela ekukhetheni ngesondo kwesilwanyana kuxhomekeke kwisimo salo kunye nezinye iimpawu zomxholo. Ngaloo nto, kubalulekile ukwenza uphando oluncinci, oluya kubonisa ukuba "amakhwenkwe" kunye "namantombazana" eentsapho zekati.
Imilinganiselo yokuqhathaniswa
Kunzima ukufumanisa ngubani olungcono kunekati okanye ikati, kuba umntu ngamnye unemilinganiselo yakhe yezilwanyana ezifuywayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo isilwanyana siqala ukubonwa yinyaniso yokuba khona kwayo, kwaye zonke iimpawu zayo zamukelwa njengento engenakukwazi ukuyenza. Ukuba awufuni ukunyamezela iimpazamo zezilwanyana, ngoko kufuneka ukhethe ngokucophelela, ukuze ukhetho lokugqibela lulungile.
Ngoko, yiziphi iimpawu ikati inayo? Apha ungenza oku:
- kakhulu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha unobundlobongela;
- Bakhawuleza bakhathazeke ngama-weasel;
- kukhula ngakumbi kwaye lukhulu;
- kufuneka ukuba ube nokufikelela kwisitalato.
Ikati iyinkosi yangempela endlwini. Ubeka amanqaku ekunciphisa ikhaya lakhe kwaye le "tags" ayinayo iphunga elimnandi kakhulu. Yilungiselele ukuba ikati lakho linyamalale iintsuku eziliqela kwaye ufike nge "ukulimala kwindoda" efunyenwe ekulweni neekati. Ngokungafani namakati? Iikati zixhomekeke kwaye zizolile. Zineempawu ezilandelayo:
- coceko;
- umnqweno wokuqamba amanga ngamadolo;
- ukulungelelanisa naziphi na iimeko;
- ukukwazi ukuzala.
Ngako oko, ukuphendula umbuzo: ngubani onomthandayo, ikati okanye ikati, impendulo iya kuba yinto engalingani - ikati. Nangona kunjalo, zonke iimpawu zizodwa, kwaye unokukwazi ukudibanisa ikati elithandwayo elithandwayo kunye nekati ephumayo.
Ngubani omele athathe - ikati okanye ikati?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uqaphele iimfuno ozifumanayo. Ukuba udinga uthando, ikati iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo ngakumbi. Kodwa ukuba awukulungele ukwamukela inzala enokwenzeka, ngoko ukhetho luya kuhlaselwa kwikati. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba inzalo ityalile, kodwa le nkqubo ayitholakali yamukelwa ngumntu, kuba kunzima kunzima, nangona ikhuselekile.