Bonke abazali emphefumlweni bayaqonda ukuba ukumemeza kubantwana akunakwenzeka. Nangona kunjalo, akubona wonke umntu ucinga malunga nokuba kutheni akunakwenzeka, kwaye ungayithobeli ingqalelo into engayi kuyenza emva koko. Ngaphezu koko, uninzi oomama nooyise bayamemeza kumntwana, kuba abanakuwunqanda umsindo wabo, ngokuthe rhoqo. Emva koko, abantwana basoloko bexakeka, yaye ngamnye wethu angawa. Makhe sicinge malunga nendlela yokwakha inkqubo yemfundo ngendlela enokwandisa ilizwi ngomntwana akuyona indlela eyona nto yokulungisa iingxaki.
Kutheni ungeke ukwazi ukumemeza kumntwana?
Ukumemeza kubantwana kungafanelekile ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi.
Okokuqala , le ndlela ibonakalisa njengento engenamsebenzi. Ukumemeza nokukhwaza ngomntwana - njengomthetho, akuthethi ukuba uya kukuva kwaye akuqonde. Eyona ndlela ibaluleke ngakumbi iya kuthetha ibinzana, ngokukodwa ukuba ngeli xesha kuya kuhamba kunye nomntwana ekuphakameni. Hlala phantsi uze uthathe umntwana ngesandla, cebisa ukuba sixoxe ngxaki kunye kwaye uya kumangaliswa ngendlela elula ngayo. Oku kusebenza kubantwana abancinci - abadala bafuna indlela yabo, kwaye bafumanisa ukuba ngumsebenzi wabazali. Ukuba umntwana usetyenziselwa umntwana ukuba umama uyamemeza, ngoko, ekukhuleni, uya kuhoxisa amagama kunye nezicelo zakho.
Okwesibini , ukukhala kunoma yimuphi umntwana kukunyanzeliswa kwengqondo yakhe, kusenakwenzeka kakhulu. Umntwana kaninzi akaqondi isizathu sokuba umemele. Emva koko, akazi ukuba umama wayekhathele, akafumani ukulala ngokwaneleyo okanye aphikisana nomhlobo. Vumelani ukuba oku akusiyo isizathu sokukhupha ububi kumntwana ongenacala. Emva kwakho konke, ngale ndlela uyamemeza umntu wakho kunye nendoda ethandekayo ibe yinto yokutshatyalaliswa, ukuphendula okukhuselekileyo kwindalo enokuthi ibe yinto eninzi ngakumbi, nokuba yinto engcolileyo. Eyona nto ingozi xa kukho i-monologues yakho kwiitoni eziphakamileyo kukho amagama aholele ekungabikho phantsi kokuzithemba komntwana (okubi, okubi, ukuchithwa, njl.
Okwesithathu , sifundisa abantwana kungekhona ngamazwi, kodwa ngomzekelo wabo. Yimisebenzi yabazali ukuba abantwana bathathe njengesiseko sendlela abaziphatha ngayo, kuba umama nobaba kuba ngumntu owona mlawuli, kwaye ukuba bayakhala, kuthetha ukuba le yindlela kuphela yokuyenza. Ukuqonda oko, umntwana ngokwakhe ufunda ukuthetha ngokuphakamisa ilizwi lakhe. Ngoko ungamangaliswa ngamaxesha amaninzi kunye namazwi angcolileyo. Ngaphezu koko: uya kuzisa abantwana bakhe kwikamva ngendlela efanayo, ukuba awuguquli ukuziphatha kwakho ngexesha.
Ungayeka njani ukumemeza kumntwana wakho?
Hlaziya iimeko apho udla ngokukhawuleza kubantwana bakho. Ziziphi iimeko ezenzekayo? Mhlawumbi a bengekho abantwana ngokwabo abanokubeka ityala ngenxa yezinto eziphosakeleyo okanye zabo. Inokwenzeka ukuba, isizathu sihlala kuwe - uze usombulule ingxaki yokumemeza ngezinye iindlela:
- uzame ukuphepha iingxaki zengxabano;
- ukulungelelanisa nayiphi na ingxabano kwinqanaba lokuqala, kwaye awuyi kuhendeka ukuba umemeza kumntwana;
- umntwana onengqondo kakhulu kulula ukuphazamisa ngokuyitshintsha
ingqalelo kwenye into enomdla kunokuzama ukukhala ukuze amthobele; - sebenza kwimeko yakho yengqondo. Zama ukulala ngokwaneleyo, qaphela ukuzinyamekela, uchithe ixesha elilodwa okanye kunye neentombi zamantombazana - kwaye uya kubona ukuba uya kuba nokunyamezela abantwana.
Ngoku ungaphendula lo mbuzo ngokwakho ukuba unako ukumemeza kubantwana. Zama ukwenza imizamo eninzi kule nto, kuba ngumama ozolile, abantwana baya kuthobela baze bavuyiswe!