Ubuqhetseba kungekhona nje ebomini bokwenene, kodwa nangamaqabunga ephupha emva kokungonwabi. Abaninzi bayaqiniseka ukuba iphupha elinjalo, malunga nokuqinisekiswa ngokuthe ngqo kokungathembeki kwinyani. Ngoku unokuqinisekisa okanye ukuphazamisa iimvakalelo zakho ngokuchazwa. Ukugcina ulwazi olunembile, qwalasela ezinye iinkcukacha zesalathisi.
Kutheni uphupha ukukopela umntu?
Ininzi idla ngokuba iphupha, ngokuchaseneyo, ibonisa ukunyaniseka komntu othandekayo. Phakathi kwakho kukho ubudlelwane obuqinileyo, obungafaneleki ukuba buyityhutyhwe. Kwakhona kungasilumkiso sokuba kufuneka uqaphele nabanye abantu, kuba bangayisebenzisa kakubi ukuzithemba kwakho. Ukuba ukungathembeki kwenkwenkwe kwakulindelwe, ngoko kusasa kufuneka ulindele ukutshatyalaliswa kweethemba ezikhoyo. Kwakhona, icebo elinjalo lingabonisa ukuba imizamo yasekhaya iya kuthatha ixesha elininzi kunye namandla avela kuwe. Kukho ulwazi lokuba ukungcatsha yindoda kuyisixwayiso sokuba ngenxa yobume babo , ubudlelwane buyakwazi ukuphazamiseka. Umbono ebusuku, apho umfana osetshintshileyo, u lumkisa malunga nokuvela kwengxaki ngomthetho.
Ukunyanga umntu ephupheni kubonisa ukuba ngokwenene unokungabaza iimvakalelo zomntu othandekayo. I-conjecture ithi mhlawumbi oku kukho ukulungiswa okuthile. Ngaphezu koko, iphupha elinjalo lithembisa ukutshatyalaliswa kwezicwangciso kunye neminqweno. Ukuba uyakwazi ukuzibona indlela umntu onguguqula ngayo - oku kungumxholo wokuba unomntu ongenalutho, yintoni edlalwa ngabanye. Ukutshatyalaliswa komntu othandekayo ephupheni kuyalumkisa ngokuvela kweengxaki ezahlukahlukeneyo, kwaye unokukwazi ukujamelana nabo ngokubonga ngoncedo lomntu othandekayo.
Umtoliki wephupha uthengisa umntu ephupheni, njengokuba kwenzeke ukungaphumeleli ebomini, kwaye kungabonakalisa ukuba yedwa . Enye iphupha li lumkisa ukuba uya kuziva ukuzisola ngenxa yesenzo sokukhawuleza. Ukuba ukwenzile nomhlobo wakhe omhle-oku kuwuphawu lokungakhathaleli kwintanda enyanisweni. Ukutshintsha kwentombazana ephupheni kumfana ngenxa yokuphindezela kuyimpawu yokuba uya kuvuya ngobudlelwane beentsapho kwaye akafanele alindele iingxaki.