Ukuchazwa kwamaphupha kuye kwaqhutyelwa amaxesha amandulo kwaye akuphumelelanga. Ukusebenzisa ulwazi lookhokho bethu, siya kufumanisa ukuba kubangelwa entanyeni, kubonwa kwiphupha, kuthetha.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ukumanga kumnandi, kwaye kwiphupha. Kwaye kuthetha into enhle. Ukumanga entanyeni ephupheni kuvame ukubona uthando. Uthetha ngolwalamano oluhle, olunomnene kumntu othile, mhlawumbi ngokuthintela umnqweno. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iphupha ngokumanga entanyeni evela kumntu obangela uvelwano ngokwenene lithetha ukulungelelana. Kungenzeka ukuba lo mntu uceba ukunika le ntombazana isandla kunye nentliziyo. Okanye udibana naye. Yaye ukuba uyamanga, ngoko uya kucinga ukuba ufuna ukuthandana.
Kutheni kubangelwa entanyeni yelitha?
Ukuba wabanga utshaba ephupheni, kuya kufuneka ulindele kuye kuye enye imbumba, ukuba awuyi kuthatha amanyathelo okukhusela kwaye uzenze ukuba awusayikuchasana naye.
Uyakuthanda ntoni entanyeni xa ubanga umyeni wakho?
Akusibi kakhulu (emva koko, ngokuqhelekileyo umyeni akayintshaba) kwaye uthetha ukuba akukho nweleyo ngokwaneleyo. Kuya kuba mnandi ukuphawula ukuba umfazi akayena kuphela umpheki-unanny-umfazi wesithandana, kodwa naye ungumfazi othandekayo onokuthanda.
Kukho uluvo lokuba ukuba umntu onesizungu ubona iphupha elinjalo, ngokukhawuleza uza kudibana nomthando wakhe, kwaye ukuba wayephupha ngomntu oye wadibana nothando lwakhe, uya kuba nenhlanhla ebomini.
UMnu Freud, mhlawumbi, akunakunceda ukuthetha. Kwaye kucacile ukuba ucinga ngako. Uze ulele malunga nekarrotti isichazizo sesondo, kwaye emva kokubanga, kwaye kwintamo. Kucacile, oku kulwabelana ngesondo, kwaye kungekhona kwabanye, kodwa kwisini esifanelekileyo ngesandulela.
Ezi zizo zonke iinguqulelo ezimnandi (ezingaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi) ezivela kubalobi abalungileyo beencwadi zephupha. Kukho, njengesiqhelo, kunye nabanye. Abanye abatoliki ngenxa yezizathu ezithile bayakholelwa ngokuchaseneyo, kwaye ininzi yazo yonke ingxaki ikulindele umphuphi, mhlawumbi umphuphi, owatshitshiswe ngumdlali. Ukuba wayemanga ngentshiseko, kuthetha ukuba abahlobo bakhe baya kumngcatsha. Kwaye xa ebanga ngesidlo, kwakhona kwakhona akulungile: kulo mzekelo, umtshato ngokwakhe uthengisa.
Kodwa ukuba unika ebusweni kumntu ovela kwiintsapho (umama, udade, umzalwana, uyise, ugogo, utata), ke inhlanhla iyaqinisekiswa: nokuba ishishini liya kuba nethamsanqa, okanye ngabahlobo abalungileyo baya kufumaneka, okanye nantoni na.