Ukususela kwiminyaka engama-16-umhla okhethekileyo, abazali bahlala behlushwa, umbuzo wesiphi isipho sokunika unyana wakhe, ukuze namhlanje akhumbule ubomi. Kulula xa uyazi ukuba unyana wakho unephupha, apho ufuna imali. Kule meko, abazali banethuba lokuba ngabagadi abafanelekileyo. Kunzima kakhulu xa umntwana ephupha ngokuthula. Uya kufuneka usebenze ngokungaqhelekanga, okanye uzame ukubuza unyana wakho ngeminqweno yakhe.
Yintoni ongayinika ngayo iminyaka engama-16?
Abantwana abaninzi baphupha ukubhiyozela ukuzalwa kwabo kwe-16 kunye nabahlobo babo. Ukuba abazali baqonda abantwana babo baze bathembele kubo, banokuyilungisa iphala ekhaya, bahlawule iholide kwi-cafe, kwi-club bowling okanye nakwi-aquapark.
Isipho sokuzalwa komntwana ngokuqhelekileyo kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezithandwayo. Kwimeko apho indodana yakho iqhubekile kwimidlalo yezobugcisa, uhlala uyazi ukuba izixhobo zemidlalo zona zilungileyo okanye ziphi izicathulo ezifanelekileyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyamnika into ebiza kakhulu ukusuka kwinqanaba lakhe lokuzilibazisa, awuyi kuphinda ulahlekelwe. Ingaba ngumkhwa wokubhoba, i-volleyball okanye ibhola lebhola, i-rollers, i-snowboard, i-skateboard. Khawucinge ukuba uvule kangakanani umntwana, ukuba into ethengiweyo iya kuba yi-autograph yezithixo zakhe. Iimvakalelo ezingekho ngaphantsi ziya kuba kwitikiti ezithengiweyo ukuya kumdlalo weqela lakho ozithandayo.
Iphupha phantse yonke inkwenkwe i-moped, i-scooter okanye ibhayisekile enekhono lokutshintsha ijubane apho iphakame khona amaqhinga. Ukuba uqondisa amandla omntwana ngendlela efanelekileyo, isipho esihle kakhulu esiza kusifumana esilungeleyo ebomini, kuya kuba nezifundo zokuqhuba.
Isipho esihle kakhulu ikhomputer, netbook, tablet , i-model yefowuni yeselula, i-e-ncwadi okanye nayiphi na enye into eyenza ikhompyutha.
Abantwana abanomlutha kwiimbali baya kuvuyela iindwendwe kwenye idolophu. Ukuba imvume yemali, imvume engayibaleki iya kushiya uhambo oluya kwelinye ilizwe, njengesipho kumntwana wakhe ngexesha lokuzalwa kwakhe. Emva koko, oku akukona nje ukuphazamisa imbali yolunye urhulumente, kodwa kwakhona iintlanganiso ezintsha, abaqhelana nabo kunye neli thuba lokutshintsha i-destiny yabo. Uhambo olunjalo lunokubangela ukuba usebenze ngamandla kwiilwimi zangaphandle. Kwaye oku, ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kuba nefuthe kwikamva eliphumelelayo.
Abantwana abaninzi bazalwa ngokuthandana, uthando kunye nezilwanyana. Ukuba unyana uyakuthanda inhlanzi, mnike i-aquarium okanye isilwanyana esitsha, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ulungiselele ukulwa nolwazi oluninzi nabemi behlabathi elingaphantsi kwamanzi, umzekelo, ngoncedo lwekhosi yokudilika. Okanye mhlawumbi unyana wakho uphupha inja yonke yobomi bakhe? Xa, xa kungengeminyaka eyi-16, iiminqweno ziya kuzaliseka.
Isipho esingakhohlwayo sasisoloko sibukele kwaye ubucwebe, umzekelo umgca wegolide. Izinto ezinjalo, nangona unyana ephuma ekhaya, uya kuhlala ehlala ebuntwaneni. Kodwa ngemali, le meko iphikisana. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba imali njengesipho kumntwana wakhe iminyaka eyi-16 akanalo ilungelo lokuba khona. Abanye bayonwabile ukukhetha esi sicombululo esilula lula kwingxaki.
Unyana oneminyaka eyi-16 - khetha isipho sengqondo
Umfana onamandla unokumangalisa ukuba uyamnika impembelelo. Isatifikethi esithembisa ukugqithisa okuninzi kulula ukukhetha, ukusebenzisa ngokuninzi izibonelelo nge-intanethi. Izifundo ekudibaneni, ukugibela kwiibharari, ukuhamba ngeenqwelo zomoya, ukuhamba-karting, ukugibela ihashe, oku akukho lonke uluhlu lweenkonzo ezibonelelwe ngamafemu.
Apha unokufumana iklasi kwiklasi kwiingcali okanye uthathe izifundo. Isipho esinjalo sokuzalwa kwe-16 yonyana wakhe sinokuphelelisa ngokupheleleyo loo nto ngokwayo. Umzekelo, xa unike igitare, ikhamera yevidiyo okanye ikhamera yedijithali.
Into ephambili xa ukhetha isipho kukukhokelwa yiminqweno yonyana, kungekhona yedwa. Emva kwakho konke, ungayithandi njani ukuloba, kodwa ukuba unyana wakho uphupha iikhompyutheni, intonga yakhe yokuloba ayinakukukholisa.