Kwiminyaka embalwa eminyaka edlulileyo, iimpawu zadlala indima ebalulekileyo ebomini babantu. Babesetyenziselwa ukufunda ngezulu kunye nezinye iimbali zekamva. Kukho inani elikhulu leenkolelo ezichaphazelekayo kumalungu omzimba. Iimpawu zabantu ezichaza ukuba kutheni ingalo iyanqatywa yinto ethandwa kakhulu, kodwa abaninzi banokudideka ngolwazi malunga neengalo ezisekhohlo nezingekunene. Yingakho kukufanele ukuhlolisisa le nkcukacha ngokubanzi. Kholwa okanye cha, ishishini lomntu wonke, kodwa ulwazi olunomdla luya kuba bonke abantu.
Ingalo yesobunxele ishicilela ntoni?
Okhokho bethu bakholelwa ukuba izandla ziyingxenye ebalulekileyo yomzimba kwaye amandla abo anqwenela imali. Ngenxa yoko, ukubetha entendeni yesandla kwakuyi-harbinger yenzuzo ebalulekileyo. Imali iya kuvela ngokungalindelekanga, mhlawumbi umntu uza kubuya ityala elidala okanye uza kufumana ibhonasi. Eyomeleleyo i-itch, inkulu imali. Ukutsala ukuhamba kwemali kuyimfuneko ukukhangela isundu ukususela kumda ukuya phakathi, ukudala umphumo wokuqokelela imali. Sinyula isandla sakho kwisibindi uze usigxothe ephaketheni lakho. Abantu abaninzi bakholelwa, ngokuchaseneyo, ukuba ingalo engasekhohlo iyabetha, ngoko kuya kuba neengxaki kwimida yezemali. Iphikisana nento yokuba uhlangothi lwesobunxele lomntu lujongene nomtyholi. Sekunjalo kubantu kucingwa, ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba utyatywe ngesundu esesandleni sokugula. Musa ukukhathazeka, kuya kuba yinkathazo elula, umzekelo, kubanda. Ngekusasa elifutshane, kufuneka uqaphele ngakumbi kwaye ubukele impilo yakho.
Kutheni ukuba ingalo yesobunxele ityekele, kuxhomekeke kwendawo yokubamba:
- Ukuba ukungathandeki kubonakala kwiminwe, ngoko nganye yesihlanu inenani layo. Ngokomzekelo, ityhumbulu i-harbinger yenhlanhla kunye nenhlanhla. Ukuba ukubetha kubonakala kwindawo yenkomfa yomnatha kuyisimboli samandla kwaye unokuyithembela kwimpumelelo nasemisebenzini. Xa umnwe ophakathi wesandla sasekhohlo uyabetha, malunga nemali. Ukuba umunwe ongenamagama utywina luphawu lokuba esikhathini esizayo esisondeleyo kuya kubakho ukugqithisa ingqalelo engeyomfuneko. Umnwe omncinci umlenze ulungelelaniso lweengxaki. Ngendlela, ukuziphepha kuyacetyiswa ukuba ubeke intsimbi yegolide kuyo kwaye ungayisusi kude ideke.
- Ukuba isalathisi sesandla sokunxele sitshintsha, kuthetha ukuba umntu uza kuzama ukunciphisa inkululeko yakho. Sekunjalo kungangqina ukuba umntu okwangoku akakwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo ezingekho phantsi. Ukuze kungabi neengxaki ezinzulu, kucetyiswa ukuba ugxothise ubugwenxa.
- Ukuba uqala ihlombe lakho lasekhohlo - esi si lumkiso sokuba kungekudala kuya kuba neengxaki ezininzi. Kunconywa ukuba uhlehlise yonke into ebalulekileyo kwaye uhambe ngosuku olulandelayo.
- Ukuba i-elbow ekhohlakeleyo ihlazo, ukuxabana okukhulu kunye nabantu abasondeleyo kuya kuvela. Kubantu ababandakanyekayo kwishishini, isithembiso esinjalo si thembisa iingxaki zempahla. Ukutshisa kwindawo yomgca wesobunxele kubantu abatsha kuthetha ukufumana ithuba lokuhlangabeza uthando lwakho. Ukuba kwakungekho ukuphazamiseka kubantu abatshatileyo, ngoko kusondele ixesha elizayo kufuneka ligcinwe, kuba ukungabi nantlonipho kungabangela iingxaki ezinzulu kunye nokuqhawula umtshato.
Kukho uphawu lokuba ingalo engasekho ikwahlula ukwahlukana nabahlobo okanye izalamane. Mhlawumbi, ngelixa umndeni usifikile, kwaye kusasa kufuneka bahambe. Ukuba indlela yayilula, kwaye yonke into iyahamba kakuhle, unokwenza umkhuba omncinci. Yiya kwiwindow, usasaze isandla sakho sobunxele uze uqhube kuyo, uthi ezi zihlandlo ezintathu:
"Ixesha lokushiya - indlela yabo iya kuba lula."
Musa ukukhala ngenxa yokwahlukana, kuba "kuya kuba ngumthwalo" kwindlela.
Ukuba ukubetha akudluli, mhlawumbi, isizathu sokuba akusiyo yonke imiqondiso, kodwa, mhlawumbi, ngumqondiso wokuqala kwesinye isifo. Isandla sinokukhatywa xa sinyulu okanye ukuphela kweentsholongwane kuye kwanyuka.