Indlela ye-Estivil, okanye indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba alele?

Iintsana zikhula kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ngendlela abazali baphakamisa ngayo imibuzo malunga nokubuyiswa kwemfundo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oomama kunye nootata, banandipha ixesha lokusondelana nomntwana, benze impazamo yokuyithatha kunye nabo ukuba balele okanye bahlale begubungela umntwana kwibala. Kodwa apha umntwana wakhula, kwaye kwakuyisikhathi sokulala ngokuzimeleyo, kodwa umntwana unyanzelekile ukuba anakekele abazali, enqabe ukulala. Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba alele ngokwabo, iya kunceda ukuqonda indlela ye-Estivil, ehlabathini lamazwe amaninzi eyazibonakalise kwicala elihle. Le nkqubo yokukhulisa umntwana ekulaleni okuzimeleyo yanyatheliswa okokuqala ngonyaka we-96 wekhulu le-20. Uphuhliswe ngugqirha wakhe odumile waseSpain ngenxa yokuphazamiseka kokulala.

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Indlela kaDkt. Estivil yinto eyayijwayele ukulala kunye nonina wabantwana, ifundiswa ukuba ilale ngokwabo. Isiseko sale mfundiso yinkqubo yokungayinaki imfuno ye-karapuz ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga kwengqondo yengane.

Njengomzekelo, encwadini ugqirha ukhankanya ukuziphatha komntwana othetha nabantu abadala ngokusebenzisa inkqubo ye-"action-action". UKarapuz uyazi kakuhle ukuba xa engavunyelwe ukwenza into, kuba ufuna, ngoko unokufumana oko akufunayo ngokukhala kunye nokumemeza, kwaye le ndlela iyona ndlela efanelekileyo yokuthatha oko abazali bakhe bafuna.

Indlela yokulala u-Estivil uxelela oomama kunye noodade, indlela yokuziphatha nomntwana onengqondo kwixesha lokulala:

• ukungahoyili ukukhala komntwana, nokuba uyakhala kakhulu;
• bonisa ukunyamezela nomonde;
• ngamaxesha onke, ubuyela ekamelweni ukuze udibanise, uchaze ukuba ngale ndlela ufunda ukulala yedwa;
• ukugcina ngokucacileyo imida yexesha elimiselweyo ngexesha lokungabikho kwaneli gumbi.

Inkqubo kaDkt. Estivil kukuba, ngokwexesha elimiselweyo, umntwana ushiywe yedwa egumbini elimnyama, esele amfake kwisibhedlele. Le nkqubo iphindaphindiwe kaninzi, de kube umntwana elele, kwaye ngaphambi kokuqala komntwana uchaze ukuba le ndlela afunda ngayo ukulala. Ixesha onokushiya kwigumbi leemvumba lidweliswe etafileni:

Kuxhomekeke kwiyiphi imini echithe ukuqeqeshwa kwaye kaninzi kangakanani abazali abashiye kwigumbi. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba iiklasi zigcinwe ngosuku lwesibini, ngokokuqala ngethuba lokushiya umntwana kungabakho imizuzu emithathu. Ukuba uyakhala, kufuneka ubuye uphinde uphinde umpake, emva koko kufuneka ushiye ekamelweni imizuzu emi-5, njl.

Ingongoma yeengqondo ze-psychotherapist ngendlela ye-Estiville

Iingcamango zeengqondo ngeendlela ze-Estivil zihluke kakhulu. Abanye bathi ukuqeqeshwa okunjalo kuphazamisa umonakalo, kuba unokwesaba kwaye angalali ebusuku, evuke kaninzi kwaye ebiza unina, ngoxa abanye, ngokuchaseneyo, bathi ukuba imeko iyazi kakuhle umntwana, akukho nto iyingozi kule nto.

Kodwa ukuphikisa okubaluleke kakhulu kwindlela kaDkt. Estivil kukuba akuyena wonke umntwana onqwenelayo ukuqala ukulala ngokwalo kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuba acinge ngethuba lokukhula kwengqondo yomntwana. Kwinkqubo yokufunda, kufuneka uqaphelisise ukuziphatha kweemvuthu, ukuze ezi zivivinyo zingaqhubeki zibe yingqondo yengqondo kunye nokwesaba ukuvumela ukuhamba kwesandla somama ngaphambi kokulala.