Ngaba wakhe wabhekana nokuzikhethela: ukubulela umntu onokulula "uyabulela" okanye uthathe uncedo olunikeziweyo?
Ngokwenani elikhulu lophando lwezesayensi, umntu ufumana uvuyo olukhulu (kwiimilinganiselo zokuziphatha nezomzimba, ngokukodwa kwiintsebenziswano), ukunikela ngaphandle kokufumana. Kodwa kunzima ukubulela xa engenawo amandla ngenxa yobunzima esibhekana nayo yonke imihla. Sonke sifuna ukuba ngcono. Ngoko masitshintshe ubomi bethu ukusuka kwincinci.
1. Ngokwezifundo eziqhutywe kwiYunivesithi yaseWarwick eNgilandi, ukubulela okulula kunceda ukunqanda uxinzelelo, uxinzelelo kunye nokudandatheka.
2. UProfesa we-Psychology weKholeji yoLuntu kunye neNzululwazi yeNdalo, uNathan Deuoll, ubeka phambili ingcamango yokuba abantu abanombulelo abanomdaka, kwaye abayifuni lula.
3. Ngokutsho kweengcali zenzululwazi kwiYunivesithi yaseKent, eU.SA, umendo wokubulela wenza abantu banwabe ngakumbi.
Iyakwazi ukuzibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, umzekelo, abathathi-nxaxheba kwimvavanyo engaxakekanga bavusa imimoya yabo ngokuthumela iincwadi zokubonga kubantu abashiya uphawu oluhle ebomini babo. Ngoko, ngexesha elizayo, xa lusizi, bhetele ubhale ileta kumntu onombulelo.
4. Ukubulela kufanele kubonakaliswe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, ngaphandle koko kuya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo ayiyi kuzisa.
5. Idatha yocwaningo lwezenzululwazi iqinisekisa ukuba, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ziphi iimpawu zomntu ngamnye, nayiphi na indlela umbulelo unempembelelo entle kwimoya yengqondo yomntu.
Umntu onombulelo unombulelo kuyo yonke into kwaye ukulungele ukunceda nabani na, nokuba ngumfokazi.
7. Ngo-2014, inqaku elibonakalayo kulo malunga nobuhlobo: ibinzana eliqhelekileyo elithi "Kwakumnandi ukudibana" kungakhokelela ekubudlelwaneni obude besikhathi eside.
8. Ukubonakala kokubulela kwandisa izinga lomsebenzi we-hypothalamus, edlala indima ebalulekileyo ekulawuleni imisebenzi ephezulu, njengememori kunye neemeko zengqondo, kwaye ngoko uthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo yokuziphatha kwabantu.
9. Abantu abanombulelo abanomdla nje kuphela, kodwa banokwenza izinto ezinzulu-ukukwazi ukuzifaka ezicathulweni zabanye.
10. Ngokutsho kweziphumo zophando, izazinzulu zenze ukuba abantu abanomdla bahlala beza kwimidlalo.
11. Inzululwazi ibonisa ukuba ukubulela kwandisa ukuzithemba, njengoko kunciphisa isidingo sokuthelekiswa nabanye.
12. Kwakhona kunomthelela kubuthongo obuthile obude.
13. Uya kuhleka, kodwa abantu abanombulelo banamafutha angama-25% ngaphantsi kweso siselo sokubulela.
14. Iingcali zengqondo zithi zinceda kakhulu ukugcina idayari yokubulela - oku kuyindlela enhle yokubuyisela amandla engqondo.
15. Kuthiwa ukuba abancinci abaselula bafumana iziphumo ezintle ekuqeqesheni.
Izifundo zibonise ukuxhomekeka ngokuthe ngqo kokubulela kunye nokungabikho kwezifo zenhliziyo.
17. Njengoko kuchazwe ekuqaleni kweli nqaku, ukubonga akuchaphazeli nje kuphela umzimba, kodwa nokuziphatha komntu. Abantu abaye babhekana nobunzima obuthathaka, bathi bayabambana, inxenye, babonga ngombono wokubulela umntu ngomusa wabo nangqalelo.
18. Imfihlelo yokuziphatha ngokwesini kunye nokukhawuleka kukwabonga kwakhona.
19. Isizathu sokubulela sisilungiselelo esihle kakhulu sengqondo.
Abantu abanombulelo bayaphumelela emsebenzini. Bahlala befezekisa iinjongo zabo.
21. Xa umntu ebulela into anayo, kwaye akafuni ukufumana yonke into kanye kanye, oku kunempembelelo enhle kwimpilo yakhe.
22. Ukwazisa - kubakho naseAfrika ukubonga-kunceda ukukrazula iimvakalelo zodwa kunye nokuqinisa ubudlelwane.
23. Umendo wokubulela uphinde uvuselele ingqondo yethu kwaye ibeke ingcinga efanelekileyo.
24. Kunzima ukukholelwa, kodwa uvakalelo lokubonga luchaphazela nokunyanzeliswa komzimba kunye nokukhuseleka komntu.
25. Ukubulela kuyasasazeka! Ngokwemvelo, ngendlela efanelekileyo yegama. Yabelana ngokubulela, kwaye akayi kubuya kuwe ngokuphindaphindiweyo!