Umntwana uyabetha. Le ngxaki ingaba kungekudala okanye kamva ibonakale ebomini kwintsapho nganye. Ewe, akukho nto inokuzonwabisa ngayo. Ngokukodwa ukuba ezinye zeentsapho zingabonakali, kodwa ummelwane okanye umntwana ovela kwirejista. Kukho izizathu ezininzi kule meko. Kodwa zonke zixazululwe ngokupheleleyo. Into eyona nto kukuqonda yakho inzala kwaye unomonde okwaneleyo ukumkhusela emsebenzini onjalo.
Kutheni umntwana eluma?
Xa uqala udibana nenyaniso yokuba umntwana wakho waqala ukuvala amazinyo enyameni yomntu, hlola imeko apho kwenzeka khona. Ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yomntwana, izizathu ziyahluka. Kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, iindlela zokulwa nokulwa kufuneka zihluke. Siza kuhlalutya ngamnye ngamnye ngokwahlukileyo:
- Ukuba umntwana uneminyaka engama-5-7 ubudala, isizathu esivakalayo ekubambeni kwakhe sihlaziye emlonyeni okanye intlungu ehambelana nento. Amaxhoba akhe aphezulu kule meko yilalamano esondeleyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo oomama bala bantwana bayakhalaza ukuba umntwana uyabetha isifuba. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Kukho iindlela ezininzi: ukuthenga izibilini zeplastiki ezizodwa ezingayi kuphazamisa ukutya kunye nokukhusela isifuba sokubetha, ukuhlawula iimbosi ezineendlela ezikhethekileyo zokunceda umntwana ahlupheke. Kodwa ngokuqwalasela ubudala bomntwana, ngezinye ixesha unokuzinyamezela, kuba ukubetha okuhambelana nokutya kunokuphepheka.
- Iinyanga ezili-8-14 ixesha apho umntwana ehlabela ngokuvuya. Iimvakalelo zikhupha umntwana, kwaye ukujongana nabo, ubeka onke amandla ekulumeni. Ukukrazula le mkhuba, unokusebenzisa ukuphazamiseka komntwana, "u-no" onzima okanye ngoncedo lwezinye izalamane "uphukise" kwaye ubonise ukuba buhlungu kwaye ngoko awukwazi ukwenza.
- Xa uneminyaka eyi-15-36 iinyanga abazali bajamelana neengxaki xa umntwana elela e-kindergarten. Olu hlobo lubangelwa ngumnqweno wokulawula bonke abanye nokuwalawula. Kwaye umntwana ngokwakhe uyabetha kwaye adibanise kuphela nabantu abangabaziyo. Uphantse akathinti izihlobo zakhe. Ukulahla ukubetha kule minyaka kunokukwazi ukuchazela umntwana wakhe ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo akuvumelekanga. Kwiimeko ezinzima, kufuneka ufundise umntwana ukuba athethe ngamagama, ukuba into ayifanelekanga. Ngokomzekelo, njengokuba: "Ndithukuthele", "andifuni", "Andiyonwabile," njl njl.
- Ukuba umntwana uyabetha aze alwe emva kweminyaka emithathu, oku kubonisa ukuba uyesabisa okanye uzive engenakunceda. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba emlwaneni wabantwana abancinci ababini baziva bebuthathaka, ngoko umntwana unjalo wabetha abanye abantwana ngenjongo yokuzikhusela. Nangona ukulunywa kwaba ngumntwana omnye, kufuneka umbonise wakho ugqirha. Kungenzeka ukuba umntwana unenkathazo yokuzithiba okanye ukuzithetha, okungaqhubekiyo ngokwemvelo.
Kuthekani ukuba umntwana uyakhala?
Kwakhona kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba ngamanye amaxesha umntwana uyabetha umama okanye yena ngokwakhe kwimeko yobudlova. Ingabangelwa yinto yokuba umntwana engayitholanga into efunwayo, ayikwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha kwabantu abadala okanye kwimeko evuyisayo. Xa uneminyaka emithathu ubudala, kuphela iingcali kwiingqondo kunye nokufundisa kunokuphendula umbuzo wendlela yokuncoma umntwana. Kubantwana abancinci, ukubetha kuqhelekile. Kwaye ungayikhupha ngeendlela ezininzi:
- xelela ngokuqinisekileyo umntwana ukuba awukwazi ukuluma, kwaye kwakhona kwenzeke, uze kunye nosana ukuze unqunywe kwaye ulibethe phezu kwendawo apho umonakalo owenziwe khona.
- khumbula ukuba ukunciphisa ulwaphulo luqhutyelwa yimidlalo ngesihlabathi, amanzi kunye nodongwe. Kananjalo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokwenzeka, kufuneka unike umntwana wakho ukuba athathe ngeepensela, iipende kunye neekrayoni;
- phakathi kweempawu zomntwana kufuneka ukuba ngumyili kunye neekhabhi;
- kunika umntwana rhoqo ukugaya ukutya okuqinileyo: iiapulo, iinqathi, iikomkom, ukuma, njl.;
- azingacacisi ubuhlobo nomntwana, ngokukodwa ngokukrokra kunye neengqayi, tk. oku kunokukhokelela ekuhlaselweni kwakhe;
- ugcine ulawulo lwengane yomntwana, ukutshintsha phakathi kokulala, umsebenzi, ukutya nokuhamba emoyeni omtsha.
Khumbula ukuba umntwana ukopize indlela oziphatha ngayo kunye nobume bakho buso. Ukubonelela ngeemeko ezifanelekileyo zokuphuhliswa kunye nokuzungeze nge-caress nokunyamekela. Emva koko iingxaki zokubetha aziyi kukuthintela.