Njengoko ukhula ukhula, imithetho ethile yokuziphatha kunye nokuthintela kwizenzo ezithile zingene ebomini bakhe. Ukuqokelela, bethonya kakhulu ukuziphatha komntwana kunye nexesha lakhe elizayo.
Abanye abazali abazi indlela yokuchazela kakuhle umntwana ukuba "akunakwenzeka." Kwaye kukhokelela kwimpikiswano kunye neengxabano phakathi komntwana kunye nabazali.
Ukuba ulandela imithetho elula kwaye uyayiqonda indlela yokufundisa umntwana igama "elingenakwenzeka", unokuziphepha ezi zimo.
- Ukuthintela akufanele kube ngaphezu kweyesithathu kwinqanaba elithile ebomini bomntwana. Yeka ezi "zingenako" ezimalunga nalezo zinto ezinokulimaza ubomi kunye nempilo yengane.
- Ukuvinjelwa kufuneka kusebenze rhoqo kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngabazali. Ukuba namhlanje into enqatshelwe, kwaye ngomso uvumelekile, umntwana akayi kwamkela le mqathango.
- Ukuphumelela ekufundeni kuncike kakhulu kwizinga lokubambisana kwezenzo zabazali. Ukuvalwa kufuneka kuvela kuwo onke amalungu entsapho yintsana.
- Awukwazi ukumemeza emntwaneni, uchazela kuye ukuba awukwazi ukwenza kubantwana. Ukuba, nangona ukuvinjelwa okukhoyo, umntwana engathobeli, kufuneka uxoxe naye, xela ukuba uluphi uvakalelo olubangela lo msebenzi, kwaye ukhumbule uhlobo luni lokuziphatha olindeleyo kwiintlanzi zakho.
Kancinci uya kubona ukuba kulula kangakanani ukuphumeza ukuziphatha okufunayo kwintsana, ngaphandle kokusebenzisa iziphumo okanye izihlazo. Ukongezelela, uya kubonisa umntwana ngendlela eqhelekileyo, ukuziphatha okwaneleyo, okuza kufundiswa ngumntwana kuwe kamva.
Abazali abaninzi, abanqwenela ukuba banqatshele nantoni na into emntwaneni, bayitshintshe nayiphi na indlela xa bethetha "kwindawo engavunyelwe". Ngoko musa ukwenza oko, kuba ubulala umdla wolomntwana ukwazi umhlaba jikelele. Ukongezelela, izenzo ezinjalo zabazali zibangela ukuba umntwana aqokelele ngokukhawuleza iimvakalelo zomsindo.
Nangona kubonakala kuwe ukuba umntwana wakho azenzekanga ukuba angaqondi igama "elingenakwenzeka", akukho mfuneko ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuyisebenzisa amanyathelo omzimba umntwana. Ufuna nje ukuthetha naye, kwaye uya kukuqonda.